Are You Flourishing?

Are You Flourishing?

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Last Saturday, I held a “Live In-person Mini-retreat” for some of my Flourishing 50s members in the L.A. area. It was an extra special time because I don’t get to see them face-to-face very often. As a virtual coach, all my services are conducted over the phone or online, which is great because I get to work with women all over the country, but I don’t get to “see” them. So, I considered this a very special time with some clients who were within driving distance.

We had a great time. There was a ton of sharing and discussing and I led the ladies through a few exercises. One in particular was to rate themselves (Poor, Okay, Good, and Flourishing) on 15 aspects of Flourishing.

Here were the 15 so you can do the same for yourself:

Physical Health – How is your Sleep, Food, Mood, and Exercise (as a whole)?

Time freedom – Do you have time on a regular basis to do whatever you want?

Balance – Do you have a balance of giving and receiving in your life?

Financial health – Do you have enough money for everything you need and want?

Work environment – How is your work culture?

Home (physical space) – How does your home look and feel to you?

Inner/Spiritual self – How is the quality of your inner/spiritual practice?

Fun/Adventure – Are you having fun and experiencing adventure in your life?

Primary family relationships – How are your relationships with those closest to you (i.e. spouse, parents, children, etc.)?

Social/Circle of Genius – How is the quality of your social circle (i.e. friends, mentors, coaches, colleagues, etc.)?

Relaxation/Rejuvenation/Recovery – Are you making enough time for relaxation, rejuvenation, and recovery?

Flow – Are you “losing yourself” (in a good way) in something you enjoy (i.e. hobby, skill, creative interest, etc.)?

Personal development – Are you regularly working on your inner self (i.e. reading, journaling, “Blue Sky” time)?

Professional development – Are you continually improving your professional skills (i.e. reading, learning, various skills applicable to your work, growing your network)?

Purpose/Meaning/Accomplishment – Are you moving toward something bigger than yourself?

PUT AN “X” WHERE YOU FEEL YOU ARE TODAY:

POOR

OKAY

GOOD

FLOURISHING

Physical Health-

 

       
Time Freedom-

 

       
Balance-

 

       
Financial Health-

 

       
Work Environment-

 

       
Home (physical space)-

 

       
Inner/Spiritual Self-

 

       
Fun/Adventure-

 

       
Primary Family Relationships-

 

       
Social/Circle of Genius-

 

       
Relaxation/Rejuvenation/Recovery-

 

       
Flow-

 

       
Personal Development-

 

       
Professional Development-

 

       
Purpose/Meaning/Accomplishment-

 

       

Then, I gave them two circles. The first circle was “Where I am today” and the second circle was “Where I want to be”. I gave them some colored pencils and they made a pie chart based on the results above. This exercise gave them a visual of the “gap” between where they are today and where they want to be.

My role as a coach in my members and clients lives is to close that gap so that they can live healthy and happy lives that are in alignment with their values.

I encourage you today to also do this exercise. Rate yourself in each of those areas of Flourishing and then draw two circles that represent where you are now and where you want to be. Use different colors that represent the areas that are in the Poor, Okay, Good, and Flourishing categories.

What is the size of the “gap” between where you are now and where you want to be?

I want to also add that perhaps you’re hesitant to do this exercise because you’re afraid that your “gap” might be overwhelmingly big. If so, I want to encourage you to do it anyway because if you do, then you can do something about it. So, if you really want to live a Flourishing life as a woman entrepreneur, you’ll do this exercise. It’s sort of like going to the doctor and getting a blood test. We put it off because we may get results we don’t want to know, but as cliché as it is, I’m going to say it – “Knowledge is power”.

If you truly want to live your healthiest and most fulfilling life as a woman entrepreneur, don’t put it off any longer. This exercise is simply information. After that, you can CHOOSE to do something about it or not, but at least you know. In fact, if you do put it off (like blood work), it’s not like you’ll never find out the results – oh you will at some point – whether it be through illness or something else. The same is true for examining your life. Your fifties are the BEST time to do this examination and I do hope you choose to do it.

Feel free to email me personally and let me know your results. Don’t worry if you’re not proud of them. Think of me like your doctor. I do this day in and day out. There’s rarely anything I haven’t seen before. Let’s just say you won’t shock me, but by sending me your results, it tells me that you’re serious about your life and well-being and you know what? That’s encouraging to me to know that this exercise helped bring some awareness to you. So please, share with me your results: kim@transformationwellnessforwomen.com

S.E.L.F.C.A.R.E. to Succeed

S.E.L.F.C.A.R.E. to Succeed

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I am frequently asked, “How do you do everything you do, and still find time to take care of yourself?”

I think the answer lies in knowing where to focus. After many years of not doing this very well, I have finally found that there are a few things that, when I do them, make life and business easier and more enjoyable.

Sleep. Sleep is non-negotiable. Adults need seven hours. No exceptions. No shortcuts. Schedule it. Continue reading “S.E.L.F.C.A.R.E. to Succeed”

Feng Shui: The Life Force Essence for Success from the Inside Out

Feng Shui: The Life Force Essence for Success from the Inside Out

Sunset Chinese ProverbFeng Shui is the Life Force Essence inside us expressed outward into the world. The words Feng (wind) and Shui (water) are the essential elements of life needed by our bodies – “wind” equates to air we breathe, providing oxygen, and “shui” refers to water, preventing us from dehydration.

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How Do You Know When to Leap?

How Do You Know When to Leap?

Laura G Digital graphic 3You may be on a slow and steady path of growth, but I have found that the greatest experiences and opportunities often present themselves as “leaps of faith.” Embrace these opportunities even if they seem risky at first. Try following this system to help you decide if you should make the leap.

Ask yourself these five questions:

1.    Do I trust the source? Is the opportunity being presented by someone I know, like and trust? What is my intuition telling me? Do I feel excited about this new venture, or am I putting it off because I just can’t get my head around it?

2.    How will the change affect my loved ones? Change is constant. Fortunately my family is not frightened by change, but I have built my businesses around my core belief that there is nothing more important for me than being a mother. Even now that my children are young adults, I still ask myself this question as it pertains to them and to my husband. Continue reading “How Do You Know When to Leap?”

How to get balanced using Energy Medicine.

Energy Healing or Energy Medicine begins with an understanding of the 7 major energy centers in the body called Aeriol Article 4 graphicyour Chakra System. For a  FREE e-COURSE on Energy Healing and the Chakra System CLICK HERE.

In my practice I use multiple energy healing and clearing modalities and encourage you to use whatever works for you however, I think the easiest thing to use is sound combined with color visualization for beginning your self healing and meditation practice.

Even if you are not yet familiar with your chakra system you can can clear and balance your own energy using simple visualization, deep breathing and vocal exercise. You do not need to spend a lot of time, you just need to be consistent in your practice if you want to see results in your life and feel more aware in your body. Continue reading “How to get balanced using Energy Medicine.”

How to MAXIMIZE Productivity when Your Office Is at Home. Part One

How to MAXIMIZE Productivity when Your Office Is at Home. Part One

woman with checklist binderYour office is at home. You can actually walk from your kitchen to your office. We all know there can be many perks to having a home office: flexibility, time with family, and even working in your pajamas. The key is to maximize productivity as if your office were offsite. Here are three tips on how to do that:

1. Set yourself up for success

2. Push the reset button

3. Manage your mind

 

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Three Goddess’s to call upon to manifest your heart’s desire in the New Year

Three Goddess’s to call upon to manifest your heart’s desire in the New Year

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Three Goddess’s to call upon to manifest your heart’s desire in the New Year.

There is nothing like the clarity and sage advice of a wise woman when you are trying to navigate the course to manifest your heart’s desire. Every woman holds both that deep knowing we call intuition and that creative spark to sculpt her reality into her little slice of heaven on Earth. This is the power of the Goddess within all of us.

Got a big mission? Up to big things in the world? Taking time daily to commune with your inner goddess can harness your innate creative power. Here is a recipe of goddess energies to invite into your life for increased manifestation powers:

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Life Lessons From a Potter’s Wheel

Balance is important in all areas of our life. We tend to think in terms of balance as meaning across each segment of our life but in truth, it matters within each of them as well. We need a balanced approach to health as an example and within our financial profile. Our personal network should be diversified and expose us to perspectives with range and depth.

The same is true for learning. We need to have core skill building for our professional endeavors and soft skill development overall. We also need to integrate things into the mix that are out of the box perhaps for us and develop interests as well as skill. This is an area where quite frankly I have not always had the right mix. My professional development always took precedence.

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Have You Gotten Too Busy?

Woman-Post-Its-211x300I have often thought of myself as the consummate multitasker. I seemed to move effortlessly from one task to another and keep it all together. One day I looked at my life, and while I didn’t scale any tall buildings, wearing a cape, I prepared breakfast every morning for my son, took him to school, headed to a networking event, coordinated coaching appointments on the phone, only to return to my office having obtain several new clients, then go to his school and teach a class, drive home, support him doing homework, cook dinner, work, play, read bedtime stories before falling into bed.  Only to start all over again in the morning. Continue reading “Have You Gotten Too Busy?”

Mythbuster: 5 Keys to Having It All (It’s easier than you think!)

Most of us have given it thought.  Most of us have even talked about it, dreamed about it.  But if pressed, most of us would probably admit that deep down, we don’t really believe in it.

What am I talking about? The idea of having it all:  Great health, a vibrant community life, a nurturing intimate circle, meaningful work, a secure future. Somehow, we’ve accepted the limitation that something has to give.

Certainly this was the case for me, but my belief did in fact change. And once the belief changed, everything changed. The change in my belief didn’t happen as a starburst.  There was no magical moment.  No wands were involved!  In fact, assembly was required. Because before I could get to that place of knowing, I had to be willing to let go of some very comfortable excuses.  And I had to re-focus myself in areas that supported a better result. Continue reading “Mythbuster: 5 Keys to Having It All (It’s easier than you think!)”