Three Must-Have Elements for Effective Leadership in Any Aspect of Your Life

Whether you want to grow your capacity for leadership in your career, at home, as a parent, as a mentor or even as a friend, you need a foundation upon which to lead. In fact, when we are not successful as leaders, it’s because we lack one of these three elements.

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Feminine Leadership

Feminine Leadership

It is such an exciting time to be a woman. Paradigms are being broken daily, and we are being called to step into our leadership in whole new ways. Each year, we host an invitation-only leadership conference for women business owners who are committed to philanthropy. Most women don’t identify themselves as philanthropists. However, I’ve found that giving back is one of the main characteristics of truly successful women in business who lead from a place of balance and femininity.

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Build a Better Business by Becoming a Better Leader

Leadership is directly linked to company profits. It’s at the core of every other key factor, such as market, sales, fulfillment, productivity and expenses. When you become a better leader, you grow a better business.
Here are 10 attributes you need to be a good leader:
1. Vision – a picture of the future that is compelling and realistic even if it is a big stretch. Keep your vision at the forefront.
2. Communication – communicate frequently in supportive and even challenging ways to build a healthy business.
3. Emotional intelligence – meet followers where they are today. I often see leaders attempt to meet followers where they want them to be instead of where they are now. Emotional intelligence brings you back to a service platform.
4. Collaboration – invite differing opinions and ideas.
5. Quick decisions – no one follows a leader who can’t choose or make decisions. Be decisive to instill confidence.
6. Walk your talk – set the example, mold the culture and live the values you set for the company and the employees. Walking your talk is part of the integrity you instill within the organization.
7. Service – Lead from the front and from the rear. Support and lift the stragglers on the team. You win or lose as a team. Being of service to the team is pivotal.
8.Commitment – to the vision, the business, the employees, the stakeholders and the clients.
9. Delegate – no one can do it all. No one is great at every task. Share the wealth and make use of the talent that surrounds the business.
10. Train – to sharpen your leadership skills as well as the skills of the team.
I encourage you to choose which of these attributes you would like to improve upon and take action. Improve your leadership skills and watch your business grow.
Doreen Milano, Certified Professional Coach, established Visions To Excellence in 2010. Doreen has years of experience assisting businesses, both large and small, in growing and thriving through even the most challenging economic scenarios.
BIGGER VISION, Evolving Brand

BIGGER VISION, Evolving Brand

Many entrepreneurs start their business because they love what they do, know they have massive value to bring and want to help others. They tentatively dip their little toe into the entrepreneurial pool or they dive right in. Either way, they start with a mission, a goal and an idea of whom they will serve and how. This shapes their brand and is the basis for the vision for their business.

As the business grows and they serve more peeps, entrepreneurs find that they need to be open to a bigger vision and allow their business to experience massive growth in ways they never imagined. Continue reading “BIGGER VISION, Evolving Brand”

Your Changing Nest: Are you ready for what’s next? Part 2

Your Changing Nest: Are you ready for what’s next? Part 2

Empty NestWelcome back to our conversation about the changing nest. Are you ready for what’s next? Here are some life practices to help you as you re-feather your nest for your next season. What makes them powerful is the fact that they are a part of our everyday life.

As I’ve moved through the empty nest in my own life, these have proved invaluable for moving me through those critical times as I have lived my “now” and designed my “next”!

Life practice #1– Bookending your day

Although this has long been a personal practice for me, it has changed greatly over the past few years as I’ve gone through some of these transitions. Let’s talk about what this really is about. Your morning practice is about centering and focus. It’s about getting grounded for whatever the day will bring. This can be a combination of activities – whatever helps you achieve that for yourself. It could be your journal, inspirational reading or audios, physical stretching exercises, meditation or prayer (or any combination of those!). It does not have to take a long time to be effective but it’s what is often referred to as a power hour. I never thought I would get up early for this but now I look forward to it every day.

Your evening practice (the other bookend!) is about letting go of the day and getting ready for what is next. Did you know that a core practice for fighting the dull-drums in life is having something to look forward to? When we end one day by knowing what we have to look forward to the next day, we rest more fully and awake with purpose. It’s easier to start when we have a plan. The most important part is letting go of today and looking forward to tomorrow. Whatever practices help you do that – those should be a part of your evening bookend. This is also a great time for your gratitude practices.

Life practice #2 – Re-Claiming Your Calendar

One of the most detrimental things I found myself doing when my daughter first got married and left the nest was waiting to see when she would need me. I hesitated committing to things until I knew what her plans would be. I was so afraid of not being available if she called or wanted to do something.

Giving me permission to create my life was essential and the first step was reclaiming my calendar. Making commitments and having things to look forward to. Even seeing her! I still remember the first time I had to tell her I had another commitment. It was a really tough moment but one that helped both of us recognize that in giving ourselves permission to experience more, we were in fact giving each other permission to do the same. There is great freedom in trust. If the calendar stays blank, so will our lives. Get some stars on your calendar!

The idea of something to look forward to has even made it into many definitions of happiness. Best-selling author and poet Rita Mae Brown is quoted as saying that “Happiness is pretty simple. You need someone to love, something to do and something to look forward to.”

Life practice #3 – Growing your life by growing you

“In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” (Eleanor Roosevelt)

Have you ever felt like you are the glue holding everything together? That you’re the stability for everyone else? This is something I hear often. And when the nest changes, here’s a key place where we now start to think about this. When those responsibilities change, we aren’t always sure where to turn in our lives to find a focus, a purpose.

One of the things I love most about my life now is the fact that the decisions don’t feel so big anymore. I used to feel such weight with every choice. Now I recognize that everything is for a season and I’m able to enjoy it more fully. Learning and growing is a big part of that. My learning strategy was always about my profession. Now it’s about me. My life. Who I want to be and how I want to be. As I have grown, so has my life.

The only motivation in life that works every time is this: Progress. So go create some progress. Create your own change. That is going to create your own internal fire and motivation for more.

It’s a core practice that serves us all. Always be learning something. Always be growing. And be deliberate about it. Many people say that they are a “lifelong” learner and that they learn from everyone. That’s great. But also learn something specific. Take a class, a course, sign-up as a volunteer where you’ll learn a new skill. Be deliberate and embrace your inner explorer again!

Life practice #4- Always be expanding your circle!

I’m sure you’ve heard the concept that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. I first learned it from success philosopher Jim Rohn. When we think about how our life changes as our nest changes this is an important factor because in many cases, up to that point our relationships have been by default and defined by our roles versus intentional based on where we are personally growing. What are your current goals? Who are the best people to have around you for that? That is where I started. Those relationships have continued to grow and what is remarkable is that they were the catalyst for other new relationships. As we find kindred spirits, they introduce us to others. By always being open to expanding our circles, we are also expanding our life-scape.

Life practice #5- Make a difference – every day

One of the things that comes up often on the subject of empty nest and changes in the seasons of life is the idea of legacy. What do we want to be remembered for? We think about this as we again start looking at purpose and shifting roles and responsibilities. We begin to think that perhaps our purpose is bigger than we might have once believed or even conceived.

We often see people at this time of their time taking on causes and engaging more in their communities. And that’s a wonderful strategy.

But I would like for us to think about this even more universally and make it a life practice to make a difference for someone every day. The truth is that we already do whether we recognize it or not. Sometimes good, sometimes perhaps not, but we have a choice. If we set a goal everyday of making a positive difference the dividends in life satisfaction we achieve are priceless.

This is also where our example makes a tremendous difference. When our children see us moving beyond the nucleus and seeing beyond ourselves to a greater purpose, we are also encouraging them to do the same. Always remember that your legacy is never about what you leave. It is always about what you live.

Permission – Perspective – Possibilities

Use these life practices to create a life system that will guide you through from now to next. Not once – but every time throughout your life.

As my mentor Jim Rohn said: “We all have two choices: We can make a living or we can design a life.”

These practices can make the difference as you design a life.

Live today like you want tomorrow to be. Live well.

Your Changing Nest: Are you ready for what’s next?

Your Changing Nest: Are you ready for what’s next?

Change is a part of life. We all know that. But do we champion change and actively put it to work in our lives? Sometimes we can be so busy responding to the many changes outside of our control that we lose sight of how strategic change can actually be.

Empty NestIn thinking about a practical example for this, I thought about where change can be the most disruptive, especially for women. One place that is true is our “nest”. Whether those changes are planned and even celebrated does not mean they are not disruptive in ways we didn’t count on or struggle with as we move forward in our lives. Our changing nest – and for what we’ll be talking about here, our empty nest.

Our children growing up: heading to college, moving away, getting married. It doesn’t matter who you are – this can be a very unsettling time. Our whole lives can seem to shift. No matter how much we’re celebrating, within that change there can still be a sense of loss.

Let’s talk about why that might be and break it down. I call it the 3 R’s of our nest dynamic:

Relationships – Responsibilities – Resources

In my own life I can see this so clearly in hindsight (that rearview mirror!). There is a relationship dynamic that definitely shifts. Our children are always our children, no matter how old they are. But they become someone else as well. They become another adult, even in some ways, a peer. That relationship can bring a very different energy.

When we think about responsibilities, quite often we’re really talking about purpose. We’re so used to living our daily life at every level based on being responsible for their daily life. When that responsibility shifts, it can bring with it a loss of purpose. What will we do with ourselves?

And those resources! Our time, money and energy! When the priorities begin to shift, we often fail to recognize that how we leverage these resources also needs to shift.

It is here where we begin to learn and embrace the POWER of Permission, Perspective and Possibilities. Every change is an ending and a beginning. Every time our life progresses to a new season it brings the ending of something we know so that we can replace it with possibilities that were not there before. Think about this in terms of actual seasons. We can’t have winter and summer at the same time in the same place. And there are things that are unique to each of them. So it is true in our lives.

The truth is though that we may not want a season to end and that can be our first hurdle. To get through to the point of permission, perspective and possibility we have to first allow ourselves to grieve for what is left behind. How we do that is as individual as our fingerprints. But it is essential. The most effective approach for this is quite simple: Gratitude. Once we commit to seeing everything through the lens of grace it becomes much easier to live from a point of gratitude. This isn’t just a platitude and I also don’t think it’s valid to say that we have to be grateful for everything. It’s not realistic. But we can always be grateful for something. And that’s the difference. Focus on what we can be grateful for and the rest becomes much easier to carry.

There are also some other very practical things that we can do that will help us re-feather our nest we will cover in part two of our discussion. I’ve come to think of them as life practices or personal strategies. What makes them powerful is the fact that they are a part of our everyday life.

The key question is always this: What does this make possible? That is the essence of resilience and how we move with grace to what we create next in and with our lives.

Live (change) today like you want tomorrow to be. Live (change) well!

Is your comfort zone sabotaging your success?

Is your comfort zone sabotaging your success?

There is a great deal of emphasis on finding balance in our lives, reducing stress and creating a more authentic lifestyle. And all of that is good: to a point. There is a difference between balance and boring. And there is a difference between stress and passion. More importantly, since our own authenticity is evolving, our lives also need to be following that same pattern.
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I changed my mind! It’s more than your prerogative!

Laughman_Oct 2015_Article 2_ChangePersonal development expert and author Brian Tracy teaches the value of zero based thinking. This practice invites you to re-examine choices based on the principal of evolving possibilities.

While it may seem obvious, we often need to be reminded that for choices to be unlimited, one of our choices has to be to change direction, to adjust and shift, even stop and re-start.

Emily Dickinson once said that we must “Dwell in possibility”. That is the secret. It is not something you occasionally do. It is where you live. The land of the winners is a citadel built on the art of possibility. Continue reading “I changed my mind! It’s more than your prerogative!”

5 Ways to Get Over Your Fear of Exposure

You may be wondering what does fear have to do with PR? It has everything to do with it because if you don’t acknowledge/embrace it, PR won’t help your business growChange Ahead

I did an interview recently with SmartChic Cynthia Bazin (a fellow expert on Today’s Innovative Woman),  Wanda Baader, of Strategize Your Success, and Gail Foley, from One Awesome Community and we talked about why women are so often held back by fear.

I shared with them 5 ways to conquer it so your business can grow. The full interview is posted below. Continue reading “5 Ways to Get Over Your Fear of Exposure”

1, 2, 3 (Mindset) Go!

Over the course of my life I have invested thousands of hours researching how people are able to effectively grow and change.  After all, we know that success leaves clues and being able to grow is the most elemental change we can experience in our lives.

My study of progressive success included scores of interviews, listening to hundreds of recorded hours with thought leaders and reading countless books written by experts on change and personal development. It also includes what has proven true in my own life and in the lives of my clients.

My conclusion? Everything begins and ends with our mindset. Continue reading “1, 2, 3 (Mindset) Go!”