The Rewards of Really Listening – Part 3

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Hello again!  This is part 3 of this series about the rewards of really listening.  (Go to PART 1 or PART 2 of this series.)  As I mentioned in the last article, this skill can be learned.  Last time we discussed three key elements of listening.

The first three key elements we mentioned are:

1) Anyone can learn to be a good listener.

2) Listening is active.

3) Listening means turning off the noise inside our heads.

Today we’ll discuss two more keys to developing this important skill so you can reap the benefits of it in your life and business. Continue reading “The Rewards of Really Listening – Part 3”

The Rewards of Really Listening – Part 2

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Hello!  This is part 2 of this series about the rewards of really listening.  As I mentioned in the last article, genuine listening can be learned.  Today we’ll discuss some of the keys to developing this important skill so you can reap the benefits of it in your life and business.

Here are three key elements about listening:

Anyone can learn to be a good listener. Even though some people might be better at this skill than others, listening isn’t about being educated, wealthy, or popular. Anyone can learn to listen, and children are some of the best listeners because they have the ability to drop what they are doing and focus intently on someone or something.  Continue reading “The Rewards of Really Listening – Part 2”

The Rewards of Really Listening – Part 1

listening - steve coveyBetty and Wilma are sitting at a coffee shop. Betty has just experienced a divorce and is telling Wilma all about it. To a casual observer, it appears as if Wilma is listening. But take a look at the thoughts running through Wilma’s head: Really, people get divorced every day; it’s time to move on. It would help her if she lost some weight and got a job; that’s what I’d do. I hope this never happens to me.

Wilma thinks she’s a good listener. After all, she’s not interrupting or fidgeting, right? But what Wilma is actually doing is hearing Betty. Like so many of us, Wilma’s just not listening.

As toddlers, we learn to speak and to understand the words of others. As we grow, we learn to read and write, in addition to many other valuable skills. But few of us ever learn one of the most essential skills of all—how to really listen.

To truly listen takes our entire attention and focus. The rewards are immense, however: happier marriages and joyful families, improved communication at work, fewer disagreements between friends and loved ones, calmer and less stressful lives. And another benefit: when you listen well, you become a person other people want to listen to.

Genuine listening can be learned. In my next post we’ll discuss some of the keys to developing this important skill so you can reap the benefits of it in your life and business.

Go to PART 2 of this series.

What Are YOU Listening To?

Smart Women BelieveWhen you’re listening to the radio, how often do you find yourself listening to music or songs you don’t like? How much time do you spend listening to mindless, unproductive television programming?

Or … are you selective about what you listen to?

What about when you’re listening to your thinking? Yes, your thoughts. Are you selective about what you will allow your mind to focus on? Continue reading “What Are YOU Listening To?”

The Art of Listening

Listening is an aspect of your life that you do instinctively. You have been listening since you were born, so this ability has become second nature. In some respects that is good, because without thinking you are aware of your surroundings. However, familiarity creates unconscious behavior. You might have forgotten that there is an art to listening. To be a good listener, you must be aware of what you are doing at a conscious level. For some of us, it can be quite a challenge. You may have become so comfortable with what you are currently doing, that you are unaware that there is room for improvement.
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