When It Comes to Business Relationships, Take the Long View 

I launched my graphic design business when I was just 29. My Midwest work ethic made me an anomaly in my field. My varied skills combined my love of design with my practicality of providing a tangible product. But there was one aspect of my business I wasn’t very good at: the relationship with myself and its impact on my clients. 

Strong boundaries are the cornerstone of relationships. I realized I didn’t have any. I would run myself ragged saying yes to every project, whether or not it was a fit for me. I heard a seasoned illustrator lay out his criteria for accepting a project. It had to satisfy two of three criteria: it was lucrative; it brought notoriety; it was fun. This strategy allowed him to do occasional pro-bono work (notoriety + fun) while also reminding him that without money, he couldn’t do what he loved. 

Another fellow designer had these criteria for clients: fast, cheap and good. They could have two out of three, but not all three. I had been trying to fulfill all three of those for my clients. They learned to expect same-day turnaround. Eventually, I was unable to keep that pace with my client load, and was neglecting tasks like invoicing. I was both frazzled and cash flow challenged. 

Reflecting on four ten-hour days at a sign company, I wondered if I could adapt that policy in my own business. I changed my hours and eventually found that with the space to recharge and handle the business side of business, I was serving my clients with more energy, enthusiasm and efficiency. 

I dropped the four-day week while raising my kids, but now that they are teens, I will reinstate it. I hope to teach them that time for oneself is a gift in the relationship with others. It’s a long race. Pace yourself. 

8 empowering beliefs to increase happiness

8 Empowering Beliefs to increase your happiness

Your experiences are shaped by your thinking. By adopting some of the beliefs below you can empower yourself to be happy. Even obstacles have a value when you can see it. You can develop convictions that will help you to feel happier and achieve more, regardless of the situation.

I am blessed
I am blessed

Consider these empowering beliefs that you can start using today to transform your life through the power of positive thinking.

  1. I understand my potential. You can achieve amazing results when you put your mind to it. Feel excited about reaching your true potential. I hereby grant you permission to let yourself be ALL that you can be.
  2. I count my blessings. List each thing that you have to be grateful for. Remember to include the smaller items, like warm socks, instagram or tart cranberriesExpressing your appreciation reminds you of how rich you are. I think you can find more of these each day if you put your attention on it,
  3. I learn from mistakes. You can make setbacks work for you by focusing on the lessons that they contain. Flubbing one job interview can teach you how to ace the next one. As a performing artist I cannot get upset over one word I forgot at the last concert. My mastery come in the form of how resilient I am and how well I recover.
  4. I find meaning in adversity. Tough times can be the most rewarding phase of your life. Know that you can emerge from any challenge with greater wisdom and courage. I hate to say it but that old adage of “that which does not kill you makes you stronger” has a tiny bit of truth to it! Look back at the obstacles you’ve already overcome, and reassure yourself that you can handle what’s ahead.
  5. I embrace change. Accept that life is a series of changes. Focus on the present moment, and prepare yourself to adapt to whatever circumstances come your way. If all else fails… practice this mantra: “change is good, change is good, change is good!”
  6. I dream big. Expand your wish list. Do not play small if you want big results. Setting demanding but attainable goals gives you adventures to look forward to each day.
  7. I practice forgiveness. Lighten your load by clearing away any resentment you’re holding onto from the past. Set reasonable boundaries while you respond with compassion when others disappoint you. While you are at it, Pardon yourself too. If you are like me you can be pretty rough on yourself at times and while that fuels you to get better you do want to temper it with a some of that golden compassion you tend to grant others.
  8. I give generously. Sharing your blessings makes you more powerful and joyful. Volunteer in your community and speak kindly to each person you meet today. Buy coffee for your co-workers or give your receptionist a flower.

Dream big and stay positive. You can achieve all of the goals you set out to achieve.

CLICK HERE to view VIDEO AFFIRMATION MEDITATION  “I am empowered”

Please let me know if I can be of any assistance to you or your business.

I look forward to hearing from you.

aeriol

www.askaeriol.com

Exciting New Book Reveals How To Have The Life of Your Dreams!

Exciting New Book Reveals How To Have The Life of Your Dreams!

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Choose Bliss: The new paradigm in Business.

 

Choose Bliss: New Book Proves a Life of Enduring Joy & Contentment *IS* Possible. It’s a Paradigm Changer Critics Hail “Authentic & Powerful”

 Masterfully crafted from the life, experiences and wisdom of Moneeka Sawyer, ‘Choose Bliss: The Power and Practice of Joy and Contentment’ empowers readers to embrace the fact that bliss isn’t circumstantial, but is rather a constant state of being that anyone can thrive in. Through both deeply-personal vignettes and a host of practical exercises, Sawyer walks readers through learning how to never settle for “just good enough” and how creating true power and prosperity can be as easy as a few simple mindset shifts…

 Mountain View, CA – Those who know Moneeka Sawyer often regard her as one of the happiest, most joyous and positive people they’ve ever met. It’s far from a front; Sawyer is truly blissful at all times and feels totally in control of every decision she makes.

It’s a unique yet totally transformative state of mind underpinned by a series of foundational “bliss practices” that anyone can deploy. In her new book, Sawyer explains how you too can be as happy and content as she is.

‘Choose Bliss: The Power and Practice of Joy and Contentment’ will leave readers reveling in their new life steeped with opportunity, positivity and bliss that goes far and beyond being a buzzword. It’s a book about the power to choose, and how these choices can easily create a reality more blissful than anyone believed possible.

Book Synopsis:

This book is about your power to choose. It is a paradigm changer that will transform your view of your life, the world around you, and what is truly possible. Filled with thought-provoking concepts, it will teach you simple bliss practices you can implement immediately and short exercises to integrate bliss into your life forever. The tools in this book have proven successful time and time again. So, from this day forward, you don’t have to settle for good enough.

“The issue is that most people fall into a state of complacency, creating a vicious circle where they live robotically and become frustrated when they’re seldom happy,” explains Sawyer. “My book and my entire philosophy will amplify anyone’s inner light and rekindle the love in their heart. After all, don’t we all deserve to live surrounded by bliss? Feeling happy, strong and free is so empowering that it’s almost hard to put into words. This book will help anyone identify the mental, physical and spiritual adversity that’s holding them back and then inspire them to emerge victorious into a life they have only ever dreamed of.”

Continuing, “I want people to remember that they have a choice about every single thought, movement and action they make in life. When you understand how to make each of these decisions with a continuing life of bliss as the goal, amazing things begin to happen. Just ask the people I’ve helped who have proven first-hand that my methods are rock-solid and proven.”

Since its release, the book has garnered a consistent string of five-star reviews. For example, H. Blanchard comments, “I’ve read a lot of self-help books and this one feels different – more authentic – because Moneeka shares her own life journey and how she overcame problems in a way that I could relate to. The main thing I will take away is that changes are not linear and you don’t have to take action A, then B, then C etc. you can have bliss now even though you haven’t worked your way through to Z yet. I also found that as I read she left cues for the forthcoming chapters that my subconscious started working on so that when I got to the chapter on that subject e.g. Gratitude, I had already started working it into my daily routine naturally.”

James R. Cichoracki adds, “Moneeka’s insights and her compelling stories (from her challenging childhood where she was relentlessly bullied to her hard choice a few years ago to not become a mother) demonstrate how deeply devoted she is to the amazing principles of choosing bliss no matter what her circumstances. I found myself underlining and making notes of things I want to incorporate into my life to live the joy-filled life that Moneeka clearly embodies every day. This book is full of gems!”

‘Choose Bliss: The Power and Practice of Joy and Contentment’, from Silver Torch Publishing¸ is available now: http://amzn.to/2axqguL.

For more information and resources, visit the author’s official website: http://coreblisslife.com.

The Bank Account Most Women Entrepreneurs Are Neglecting

The Bank Account Most Women Entrepreneurs Are Neglecting

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We only have so much time, money, and energy. The problem I see with many women entrepreneurs is that most of those precious resources are used to get more clients and grow their bank account through investing in sales, marketing, and social media courses and coaches, while way less of those resources are used on the health side – taking care of their bodies through proper nutrition, hydration, sleep, mental rest, and physical activity.

On a daily basis, I work with women in midlife who have been taking care of everyone else most of their lives and they reach their fifties and wonder what happened to their bodies, when and how did they gain all this weight?

The answer is usually because while taking care of other’s needs, they have putting their own needs on the backburner for far too long.

I find the same being true for most women entrepreneurs, especially in midlife. Many that I meet have worked a corporate job for 30 years and hated it. When they hit midlife, they wanted to start a business and do something they really love – something that will make a difference in people’s lives.

While I love this change of career and newfound purpose, what I often see is the same thing happening – they use their new career to help others, while neglecting to take proper care of their own selves.

Do we women entrepreneurs need to spend our time, money, and energy learning how to build our businesses using marketing, sales, and social media? Absolutely! We need to know these things in order to build our businesses, right? But, the key question is, “At what cost?”

When was the last time you invested your time, money, and energy in a wellness coach?

A wellness coach, like myself, takes a holistic approach to helping you create lifestyle changes such as work/life balance, decreasing stress, increasing the quality of your sleep and nutrition, and most importantly, what this healthy lifestyle leads to is a longer life, which means doing your thing and serving your people for many, many more years, which leads to more money in your bank account.

What I’m suggesting is not that you stop investing in business courses and coaches, but that that you look ahead and use your wisdom to invest in the next 30+ years of your life.

Health must be at the top of your list, especially as a women entrepreneur. While money can buy a lot of things, it cannot buy you your health back. Your health must be earned over time and the time to start is always right now.

If you continued on today, business as usual, what would your health look like in 30 years?

Can you make a few small investments in your health bank account that will compound over time?

Trust that investing your time, money, and energy in your health and self-care will pay you the biggest interest over time.

There are two great ways to start:

  1. Download my free guide – “5 Steps to Becoming a Healthy, Wealthy, and Wise Woman Entrepreneur in Your 50s” here: http://www.transformationwellnessforwomen.com/healthy-wealthy-wise/
  2. Join my free Facebook group – “Healthy, Wealthy, and Wise Women Entrepreneurs in Midlife with Kim Acedo” here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthywealthyandwisewomenentrepreneurs/

Remember, serve your people, but also serve yourself. Over time, you will find that both your money bank account as well as your health bank account will overflow. Isn’t that what you want for you? And isn’t that what you want for your clients?

Be the change. Set the example. Inspire your clients through your healthy way of life.

 

 

 

S.E.L.F.C.A.R.E. to Succeed

S.E.L.F.C.A.R.E. to Succeed

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I am frequently asked, “How do you do everything you do, and still find time to take care of yourself?”

I think the answer lies in knowing where to focus. After many years of not doing this very well, I have finally found that there are a few things that, when I do them, make life and business easier and more enjoyable.

Sleep. Sleep is non-negotiable. Adults need seven hours. No exceptions. No shortcuts. Schedule it. Continue reading “S.E.L.F.C.A.R.E. to Succeed”

Self-Care Quick Tips

Self-Care Quick Tips

Today I wanted to talk a little bit about Self-Care. As women entrepreneurs, we tend to go, go, go and push ourselves really hard to create the success we want and sometimes we work way to hard and we burn ourselves out.

A couple things you can do to avoid burn out, is take breaks when you start to feel yourself and your body getting really tired, don’t keep pushing through. Stop, take a break, do something rejuvenating and nice for yourself and your body. Take a bath, go for a walk, sit in your garden, enjoy the sunshine, read for a few minutes, meditate-something that will relax and rejuvenate you. Continue reading “Self-Care Quick Tips”

Women Entrepreneur Self-Care, It is Not What You Think

Women Entrepreneur Self-Care, It is Not What You Think

Laurie Z Digital 3 graphicAs women we hear often about the importance of taking care of ourselves, by making sure we exercise, get enough sleep and eat healthy. As women entrepreneurs there are other self-care to-dos we do not talk about enough. Here are three women in business ideas to review and see what you can do to take better care of you and your bottom line.

 Stand Up for Your Business

As women we are raised on the idea that being nice and agreeable is the way to be. As a woman on a mission, I am sure you have found that nice does not always get the job done. Standing up for your business is like speaking up for yourself. Be sure you are letting your team of vendors know when something is not working. People cannot do better if we do not tell them we need something different. Is there a place you need a better result?

Expect Excellent Service

As a business mentor to women I often hear stories of vendors who vanish or contractors who act like they are doing a favor by working on a project. Make sure you are expecting excellent service from who ever you are paying and if you are not getting great service, ask for it. If you still do not get it, find another solution, you deserve it.

Communicate Your Expectations Early

When starting new relationships with team members or new vendors, sometimes women are unconsciously focused on being liked and being perceived as easy to work with, rather than being clear about what the expectations are. If you have an expectation that every task is completed or every call returned within 24 hours, say that. The clearer you can be about your expectations the better your business will go.

Take care of yourself by taking care of your business. One of the ways you take care of your business is taking a few minutes to take advantage of all the TWIBC resources we have for you. Visit:  www.twibc.com for more great articles, event listings, expert interviews and more.

New Moon Goddess Manifestation Reading: March 2016

Well, I hope everyone is ready to fill up their cups on this new moon with powerful guidance from the goddess’s!  I want to encourage you all to take some sacred time on or near the New Moon to sit in silence and connect with your higher self. Ground yourself into Mother Earth and relax while breathing deeply into your beautiful perfect body. Pay special attention to your EXHALE. Really allow yourself to let go of what does not serve your highest and best good. Keep a journal close by and call in & sit in silence with these goddess energies:

Three Goddess to work with on the New Moon March 2016
Three Goddess’s to work with on the New Moon March 2016

1. The first goddess in our New Moon Manifestation Reading is Lakshmi, the Hindu Goddess of Abundance. Her presence in our reading assures a bright future. Lakshmi urges us to think only positive thoughts and know that the universe will indeed provide all that we need. There is no place for negative thinking or worry in the presence of Lakshmi as she provides us with renewed faith, hope and optimism. It is not surprising that her gentle and simple message is: “Stop worrying. Everything is going to be fine.”

2. The second goddess in our reading is Mary Magdalene . This goddess archetype represents Unconditional Love. Mary Magdalene is one of the most controversially misunderstood women in history and yet her energy is that of pure love and divine union. Do not worry about what others think or say what other people think about you is not your concern. Rather, take the higher ground and choose to love and forgive. Rise above the lower energies of petty misunderstandings, judgement and human chaos and choose to dwell in a higher level of consciousness where there is only love. She tells us: “Love yourself, others and every situation- no matter what the outward appearances may be.”

3. The third goddess in our reading is Aeracura. And… She arrives just in time for Spring! Her’s is the energy of Blossoming! She is a German/ Celtic Goddess who is known to multi-task as an Earth Mother diety, a fairy queen and a psychopomp (a guide that is a bridge between worlds). She helps us to take time and nurture ideas and cultivate our goals. When she appears in a spread it is a good idea to spend time with flowers either out in your garden or working with essences or essential oils. She is fond of artists and inventors and can be helpful in manifesting emergency money when needed. Her message is: “You are just getting started, so have patience with yourself and the process, and do not give up.”

That wraps up our goddess oracle manifestation reading for the New Moon March 2016!

Angel Intuitive, Energy Healing Expert, and Spiritual Business Advisor Aeriol Ascher has decades of experience assisting clients to liv  e more comfortable, confidant and conscious lives. Her healing practice Reiki Angel Intuitive Arts was voted Best “Day Spa” in Silicon Valley by the San Jose Mercury News 2015. Aeriol empowers her clients with tools to increase awareness, hone intuition and connect to their authentic self by offering them gentle guidance and straightforward advice on navigating the path to manifesting their heart’s desire. Got Questions? www.AskAeriol.com

Three stones to work with to ground and balance the heart

Three stones to work with to ground and balance the heart

Three Stones to work with to ground yourself and balance the heart chakra
Three Stones to work with to ground yourself and balance the heart chakra

When you begin any meditation or self healing energy medicine modalities I always suggest to my students and clients that they learn to ground themselves. There are many different visualizations that you can do to put a grounding chord from your tailbone to the center of the planet in order to ground your electrical or energy body into Mother Earth. Regardless of what visual technique you use this is a great first step to take in your self-care ritual.

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Three Goddess’s to call upon to manifest your heart’s desire in the New Year

Three Goddess’s to call upon to manifest your heart’s desire in the New Year

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Three Goddess’s to call upon to manifest your heart’s desire in the New Year.

There is nothing like the clarity and sage advice of a wise woman when you are trying to navigate the course to manifest your heart’s desire. Every woman holds both that deep knowing we call intuition and that creative spark to sculpt her reality into her little slice of heaven on Earth. This is the power of the Goddess within all of us.

Got a big mission? Up to big things in the world? Taking time daily to commune with your inner goddess can harness your innate creative power. Here is a recipe of goddess energies to invite into your life for increased manifestation powers:

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