Are You Flourishing?

Are You Flourishing?

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Last Saturday, I held a “Live In-person Mini-retreat” for some of my Flourishing 50s members in the L.A. area. It was an extra special time because I don’t get to see them face-to-face very often. As a virtual coach, all my services are conducted over the phone or online, which is great because I get to work with women all over the country, but I don’t get to “see” them. So, I considered this a very special time with some clients who were within driving distance.

We had a great time. There was a ton of sharing and discussing and I led the ladies through a few exercises. One in particular was to rate themselves (Poor, Okay, Good, and Flourishing) on 15 aspects of Flourishing.

Here were the 15 so you can do the same for yourself:

Physical Health – How is your Sleep, Food, Mood, and Exercise (as a whole)?

Time freedom – Do you have time on a regular basis to do whatever you want?

Balance – Do you have a balance of giving and receiving in your life?

Financial health – Do you have enough money for everything you need and want?

Work environment – How is your work culture?

Home (physical space) – How does your home look and feel to you?

Inner/Spiritual self – How is the quality of your inner/spiritual practice?

Fun/Adventure – Are you having fun and experiencing adventure in your life?

Primary family relationships – How are your relationships with those closest to you (i.e. spouse, parents, children, etc.)?

Social/Circle of Genius – How is the quality of your social circle (i.e. friends, mentors, coaches, colleagues, etc.)?

Relaxation/Rejuvenation/Recovery – Are you making enough time for relaxation, rejuvenation, and recovery?

Flow – Are you “losing yourself” (in a good way) in something you enjoy (i.e. hobby, skill, creative interest, etc.)?

Personal development – Are you regularly working on your inner self (i.e. reading, journaling, “Blue Sky” time)?

Professional development – Are you continually improving your professional skills (i.e. reading, learning, various skills applicable to your work, growing your network)?

Purpose/Meaning/Accomplishment – Are you moving toward something bigger than yourself?

PUT AN “X” WHERE YOU FEEL YOU ARE TODAY:

POOR

OKAY

GOOD

FLOURISHING

Physical Health-

 

       
Time Freedom-

 

       
Balance-

 

       
Financial Health-

 

       
Work Environment-

 

       
Home (physical space)-

 

       
Inner/Spiritual Self-

 

       
Fun/Adventure-

 

       
Primary Family Relationships-

 

       
Social/Circle of Genius-

 

       
Relaxation/Rejuvenation/Recovery-

 

       
Flow-

 

       
Personal Development-

 

       
Professional Development-

 

       
Purpose/Meaning/Accomplishment-

 

       

Then, I gave them two circles. The first circle was “Where I am today” and the second circle was “Where I want to be”. I gave them some colored pencils and they made a pie chart based on the results above. This exercise gave them a visual of the “gap” between where they are today and where they want to be.

My role as a coach in my members and clients lives is to close that gap so that they can live healthy and happy lives that are in alignment with their values.

I encourage you today to also do this exercise. Rate yourself in each of those areas of Flourishing and then draw two circles that represent where you are now and where you want to be. Use different colors that represent the areas that are in the Poor, Okay, Good, and Flourishing categories.

What is the size of the “gap” between where you are now and where you want to be?

I want to also add that perhaps you’re hesitant to do this exercise because you’re afraid that your “gap” might be overwhelmingly big. If so, I want to encourage you to do it anyway because if you do, then you can do something about it. So, if you really want to live a Flourishing life as a woman entrepreneur, you’ll do this exercise. It’s sort of like going to the doctor and getting a blood test. We put it off because we may get results we don’t want to know, but as cliché as it is, I’m going to say it – “Knowledge is power”.

If you truly want to live your healthiest and most fulfilling life as a woman entrepreneur, don’t put it off any longer. This exercise is simply information. After that, you can CHOOSE to do something about it or not, but at least you know. In fact, if you do put it off (like blood work), it’s not like you’ll never find out the results – oh you will at some point – whether it be through illness or something else. The same is true for examining your life. Your fifties are the BEST time to do this examination and I do hope you choose to do it.

Feel free to email me personally and let me know your results. Don’t worry if you’re not proud of them. Think of me like your doctor. I do this day in and day out. There’s rarely anything I haven’t seen before. Let’s just say you won’t shock me, but by sending me your results, it tells me that you’re serious about your life and well-being and you know what? That’s encouraging to me to know that this exercise helped bring some awareness to you. So please, share with me your results: kim@transformationwellnessforwomen.com

What’s Better: A Standing Desk or Sitting?

What’s Better: A Standing Desk or Sitting?

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Because I’m a wellness coach, I get asked the question often: “Kim, what’s better, a standing desk or sitting?”

I may surprise you with this answer, but it’s neither. You may be thinking, “Well then, what’s the best way to work?”

I believe that the best way to work is the best way YOU work. By “best” I mean doing your best quality work. Work that you’re most proud of.

My workdays primarily consist of writing, reading, and coaching my clients over the phone. I’ve learned:

I write and coach best sitting down.

I read best standing up (if it’s Kindle) or while doing cardio (audio books/podcasts)

I also often have calls with my mentor, fellow coaches, and women entrepreneurs. I do these best standing up.

Again, the best way to work is the best way YOU work. Think about how you work best:

Do you get your best writing done sitting or standing?

What about coaching your clients?

What about reading for personal and professional development?

As coaches and entrepreneurs, it’s important for us to do our best work, period. However you do that is based on your own experience:

Maybe you work best doing everything at your standing desk – great!

Maybe you work best sitting – great!

Regardless, don’t overdo either. Mix it up. It’s good for your health.

Speaking of health, I know many women entrepreneurs think a standing desk is better for their health, so they stand while they work, even if that’s not how they do their best work.

Remember, what’s most important is that you do your best work. If that means you sit, then sit. But don’t stay seated. Mix up your day so that you get up and down (that goes for you “standers” as well).

What’s more, it’s essential that you build physical activity into your daily routine because the best health benefit you’ll get in a day is not at your standing desk; rather it’s through intentional physical activity. In other words, don’t replace physical activity/exercise with your standing desk (or even your treadmill desk!).

Follow these steps:

Step 1: Make a list of all your daily work tasks.

Step 2: Do you do them better sitting or standing?

Step 3: Make the appropriate adjustments.

Then, share your findings with me. I’d love to hear how YOU work best!

More questions about this? I’m happy to help! Email me at kim@transformationwellnessforwomen.com

Exciting New Book Reveals How To Have The Life of Your Dreams!

Exciting New Book Reveals How To Have The Life of Your Dreams!

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Choose Bliss: The new paradigm in Business.

 

Choose Bliss: New Book Proves a Life of Enduring Joy & Contentment *IS* Possible. It’s a Paradigm Changer Critics Hail “Authentic & Powerful”

 Masterfully crafted from the life, experiences and wisdom of Moneeka Sawyer, ‘Choose Bliss: The Power and Practice of Joy and Contentment’ empowers readers to embrace the fact that bliss isn’t circumstantial, but is rather a constant state of being that anyone can thrive in. Through both deeply-personal vignettes and a host of practical exercises, Sawyer walks readers through learning how to never settle for “just good enough” and how creating true power and prosperity can be as easy as a few simple mindset shifts…

 Mountain View, CA – Those who know Moneeka Sawyer often regard her as one of the happiest, most joyous and positive people they’ve ever met. It’s far from a front; Sawyer is truly blissful at all times and feels totally in control of every decision she makes.

It’s a unique yet totally transformative state of mind underpinned by a series of foundational “bliss practices” that anyone can deploy. In her new book, Sawyer explains how you too can be as happy and content as she is.

‘Choose Bliss: The Power and Practice of Joy and Contentment’ will leave readers reveling in their new life steeped with opportunity, positivity and bliss that goes far and beyond being a buzzword. It’s a book about the power to choose, and how these choices can easily create a reality more blissful than anyone believed possible.

Book Synopsis:

This book is about your power to choose. It is a paradigm changer that will transform your view of your life, the world around you, and what is truly possible. Filled with thought-provoking concepts, it will teach you simple bliss practices you can implement immediately and short exercises to integrate bliss into your life forever. The tools in this book have proven successful time and time again. So, from this day forward, you don’t have to settle for good enough.

“The issue is that most people fall into a state of complacency, creating a vicious circle where they live robotically and become frustrated when they’re seldom happy,” explains Sawyer. “My book and my entire philosophy will amplify anyone’s inner light and rekindle the love in their heart. After all, don’t we all deserve to live surrounded by bliss? Feeling happy, strong and free is so empowering that it’s almost hard to put into words. This book will help anyone identify the mental, physical and spiritual adversity that’s holding them back and then inspire them to emerge victorious into a life they have only ever dreamed of.”

Continuing, “I want people to remember that they have a choice about every single thought, movement and action they make in life. When you understand how to make each of these decisions with a continuing life of bliss as the goal, amazing things begin to happen. Just ask the people I’ve helped who have proven first-hand that my methods are rock-solid and proven.”

Since its release, the book has garnered a consistent string of five-star reviews. For example, H. Blanchard comments, “I’ve read a lot of self-help books and this one feels different – more authentic – because Moneeka shares her own life journey and how she overcame problems in a way that I could relate to. The main thing I will take away is that changes are not linear and you don’t have to take action A, then B, then C etc. you can have bliss now even though you haven’t worked your way through to Z yet. I also found that as I read she left cues for the forthcoming chapters that my subconscious started working on so that when I got to the chapter on that subject e.g. Gratitude, I had already started working it into my daily routine naturally.”

James R. Cichoracki adds, “Moneeka’s insights and her compelling stories (from her challenging childhood where she was relentlessly bullied to her hard choice a few years ago to not become a mother) demonstrate how deeply devoted she is to the amazing principles of choosing bliss no matter what her circumstances. I found myself underlining and making notes of things I want to incorporate into my life to live the joy-filled life that Moneeka clearly embodies every day. This book is full of gems!”

‘Choose Bliss: The Power and Practice of Joy and Contentment’, from Silver Torch Publishing¸ is available now: http://amzn.to/2axqguL.

For more information and resources, visit the author’s official website: http://coreblisslife.com.

Self-Care Quick Tips

Self-Care Quick Tips

Today I wanted to talk a little bit about Self-Care. As women entrepreneurs, we tend to go, go, go and push ourselves really hard to create the success we want and sometimes we work way to hard and we burn ourselves out.

A couple things you can do to avoid burn out, is take breaks when you start to feel yourself and your body getting really tired, don’t keep pushing through. Stop, take a break, do something rejuvenating and nice for yourself and your body. Take a bath, go for a walk, sit in your garden, enjoy the sunshine, read for a few minutes, meditate-something that will relax and rejuvenate you. Continue reading “Self-Care Quick Tips”

Your Cash Formula

As women in business we are always on the go. We know how to make the money, juggle the family schedules, take care of our sick and run the household as well as the office. But, who will be able to take care of us if we fall ill? The question now becomes: what is my cash flow formula? We are led to believe that tax deferred or precious metals are the end-all. The largest concerns for women today are “Not Outliving Our Money” and” No Loss Of Principle.”

How about liquidity? Not only do we need to diversify but we need access to funds without penalties; e.g.

Liquidity- A misnomer in that liquidity gets confused with equity.
Liquidity is immediate access to cash. Continue reading “Your Cash Formula”

5 Critical Keys for a Successful BEST SELLER Promotional Campaign

best practicesBEST SELLERS – Now, I’ll be honest with you here – I’m not crazy about coaches and consultants who promise they can make you a best seller in a couple of weeks or even in a weekend. I don’t believe ANYONE can authentically make that claim because there are a lot of moving parts that go into creating a best seller and truthfully, it’s VERY difficult to manipulate Amazon or any other system to do this. It seems that every time we figure out some kind of process or strategy or system for creating best sellers, Amazon and everyone else go and change their algorithms or the rules for qualifying. Continue reading “5 Critical Keys for a Successful BEST SELLER Promotional Campaign”

Let’s Talk Money for a Minute – the Kind You Make From Your Book

Laura G pic copyPublisher’s Weekly recently put out some interesting statistics on how much revenue the average author makes in royalties per year.

Would it surprise you to know that best-selling authors like Malcolm Gladwell, Jack Canfield, and EVEN Donald Trump make less than $2 in royalties for each book sold? This is largely due to the amount overhead involved in traditional publishing like paper costs, print production, distribution, marketing, agency fees, commissions and list goes on. The average author actually makes only about $540 per year – and that’s all.

So why would these celebrity authors even bother to spend months and months writing a book? Continue reading “Let’s Talk Money for a Minute – the Kind You Make From Your Book”

Ever Thought of Doing An ANTHOLOGY Book?

CopywritingAnthology books have been gaining in popularity ever since the success of Jack Canfield’s “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series. An anthology book contains many short stories, all contributed by different authors.

If you’re like me and prefer short, impactful, to-the-point stories then this type of book is great to read, but if you’re thinking about participating as a writer in an anthology, there are a few things to consider before taking the plunge. Continue reading “Ever Thought of Doing An ANTHOLOGY Book?”

Success Inhibiting Syndromes that Affect Women Entrepreneurs Part One

Sometimes we are working so hard in our business that we do not even realize when we start to demonstrate symptoms of a dysfunction that can, if untreated, cause us grave problems in our business. Take a look and see if you are suffering from any of these syndromes. Awareness is the first step to addressing what is not working for you and your business. Continue reading “Success Inhibiting Syndromes that Affect Women Entrepreneurs Part One”