Do you over give and undercharge, leaving yourself feeling depleted? Do you find yourself repeating old patterns when you feel stressed and powerless? Do you see yourself as a conscious entrepreneur, woman or business owner who is making money and wants to live from a wealth consciousness?
It’s almost perplexing how we can work for our clients; nurture our marriages and our friends, take care of our children, manage our households, our company budgets, or create our own businesses (you know… the boardroom to the bedroom)and then leave ourselves for last.
It doesn’t even seem feasible that we expend our life energy in this way. I use to give and give based on an outdated practice that I had hear and seen in childhood. What about you?
Believe me, I did for many years, because I thought it was the “right” thing to do plus I had witnessed my mother doing the it all her life.
Did you hear it was selfish …to put yourself first? If I give and give… I felt alone and depleted If I put me first, I was selfish. Yet, when I needed those same people… there were never as accommodating as I had been … or thought they would be.
How do we ever switch that programming to powerfully honor yourself? And the life you want to live on your own terms?
Here are several steps I took to update my programming.
- I gave more value to my “No” to strengthen my “Yes.” What that means is that I started saying no more often so that when I actually did say yes, it mattered.
- I started to trust MY inner wisdom and myself. What that looked like was honoring my feelings, especially during those times when I wanted to say no and would say a resentful yes instead because “they” would be mad at me.
- I honored the simple fact that I was tired, exhausted, and my cup was empty. What that looked like was taking a hard look at the motivation behind why I was doing what I was doing. Whatever didn’t resonate with my heart, feed my spirit, and add to my sustained joy and happiness, I did not do.
I have to say, some of these actions took a minute. Wanting the approval of others can be a bear sometimes, especially after you’ve taught people how to treat you. It takes a minute to value our own approval more.
Oh, and beware of feeling like or being told that you are being selfish.
I can tell you that when you are willing to integrate the above actions, you will have greater peace of mind, feel the value that you bring to all you do, and you will make conscious choices from the adult you are now instead of your childhood programming.
For those of you who want to get stronger at valuing your own approval, hearing and trusting your inner wisdom, and strengthening your ability to say no, send me an email and let’s chat.
Much love & respect,
Rev. Jenenne